23 Jun 2011

Divorce is Losing Its Appeal

Children of divorce know the cost of divorce and are committed to marriage more than ever.

From the New York Times article, How Divorce Lost Its Groove:

Andrew Cherlin, a sociology professor at Johns Hopkins University, said: “The shift in attitudes and behavior is very real. Among upper-middle-class Americans, the divorce rate is going down, and they’re becoming more conservative toward divorce.”

But according to the widely cited Marriage Project study last year, among college-educated couples who married in the mid-1990s, the likelihood of divorcing in the first 10 years of marriage fell 27 percent compared with college-educated couples who married in the 1970s.

“What happened?” asks the writer Claire Dederer in her memoir, “Poser,” which examines life as a new mother in Seattle. In the 1970s, “the feminists, the hippies, the protesters, the cultural elite all said, It’s O.K. to drop out.” In contrast, “We made up our minds, my brother and I and so many of the grown children of the runaway moms, that we would put our families first and ourselves second. We would be good, all the time. We would stay married, no matter what, and drink organic milk.”

“There has been a striking shift in both beliefs and behavior towards marriage among educated and affluent Americans,” said W. Bradford Wilcox, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Virginia and director of the National Marriage Project. “There’s a tacit or explicit recognition among well-educated parents that their kids are less likely to thrive if Mom and Dad can’t be together.”

Is this, then, the revenge of the children-of-divorce generation, rebelling against the experiences of their mothers and fathers?

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3 responses to “Divorce is Losing Its Appeal”

  1. avatar

    Got a lot out of your excerpt, keep on writing.

  2. avatar

    I take “til death do us part” so seriously I won’t even think to fall for a divorcee.

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      how do i get a miagarre separation in the military?I was just wanting to know how to go about getting a separation in the military? we have been married 5 years but it is not working out. She still needs the benefits I get like insurance etc for her and the kids. I have heard separations are fast in the military and all we need to do is agree and sign the paper. IS this true?

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