From my friends over at LoveMatters:
How do women’s “sexy” clothes really affect men? As a man, I’d like to explain. So often, I see women in tight jeans, form-fitting dresses and mini-skirts. Some are wearing “painted-on” pants, low-cut blouses and tight sweaters, while others show parts of their bras here or there. Women are wearing “sexy” fashions just about everywhere – to school, work, even church.
Are these women striving to be honored and respected by men? Sometimes I wonder what their motives are deep down inside. Are they trying to be attractive and fashionable – or are they seeking something more? Do they know what signals they’re sending men? Are they looking for attention – or are they trying to find a good husband and permanent love? Are they trying to attract a date – or trying to boost self-confidence?
It may be these reasons or others, but the bottom line is that dressing in “sexy” clothes will not cause men to honor or respect women. In fact, it’s actually guaranteed to cause men to dishonor and disrespect them. If you want a man to respect you, and perhaps eventually fall in love with you, then you must show him that you respect yourself and that you recognize your dignity before God. The best way to show this is through modesty in dress, words, thoughts and actions.
Katherine Kersten, commentator on National Public Radio and chairman of the Center of the American Experiment, writes, “But modesty is about something more: simple fairness. We women demand respect from men, insisting that they value us not for our looks, but for ‘who we are.’ It is hypocritical to do this, and then dress and act immodestly – intentionally provoking sexual desire, and signaling our easy openness to it. To act this way is to undermine our own dignity, to treat ourselves as ‘sex objects.’ Moreover, it is patently unfair, for it means that we are holding men to a higher standard than we hold ourselves.”
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